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Taking a hard look in the mirror

It isn’t easy to doImage: Mirror Reflection. The resulting introspection can leave one emotionally drained, a complete shell of one’s previous self. Yet, if we do not do this periodically, how are we to grow? How are we to learn?

Yet, what happens when you take a look and do not like what you see? When you have that moment of clarity where you realize that everything you had supposed was someone else’s fault was really your own? Even worse, what happens when the behavior being analyzed happened at work? When you realize that you were reacting in a manner that is not who you want to be or in a way that you ever thought possible? When you realize that your standing in your boss’ eyes has been permanently damaged by your actions, even if you discover that they were easily explained? Even worse, what if you realize that your astonishing behavior is a direct result of your fractured, mistrusting relationship with your boss?

How do you recover from this? How do you build your self-esteem back up to a point where you are not filled with self-doubt? How do you repair a relationship that was damaged from the very beginning but made worse by your subsequent behaviors since the relationship started? Is support by Human Resources and your boss’ boss enough to help you stand up and brush yourself off from the lengthy fall your ego just took? Is the damage too great to overcome?

All I have figured out to do is to reflect, stay quiet and hyper-vigilant. I brought this on myself with my inability to see how my actions were harming me. I just hope that the support from HR is enough to help me guide through the whitewater into which I steered myself. It is going to be a bumpy ride out of this mess. I just hope I have enough strength left to get through it.

Lawyerin’ ain’t easy

MSN recently ran an article about people getting laptop burns on their legs.  I scrolled through the article comments and came across this gem:

“There are way too many sleazy lawyers out there. It is too easy and too profitable to become a lawyer in this country and the payouts are like winning the lotto.”

Having graduated from law school this past May, this comment struck a nerve.  First, becoming a lawyer starts with graduating from college with good grades.  Then you must undertake the LSAT–a three-hour ordeal that allegedly tests your reading comprehension and logical reasoning.  After you’ve finished the test and received your scores, you put together an application for each school you hope to attend.  This includes the perfect personal essay and a $100 application fee.

Then you wait anxiously to be accepted.  You quit your job, borrow a ton of money, and maybe move to a new city.  The first year, you take 30 hours of core classes–things like constitutional law, civil procedure, torts and contracts.  These are not easy concepts to grasp.  You work like a dog.  You don’t see your friends or your family that much.  You are poor.  You read hundreds of pages each day in order to be prepared in the classroom.  Your professors embarrass you.  Your grade is one final exam at the end of 13 weeks.  You go into a room and write about the law for three hours.  When that exam is finished, it is compared to the exams 79 other people wrote and graded on a brutal curve.  Because of that curve, everyone around you is hoping you’ll tank.  Almost every day, someone reminds you that the only people getting jobs are those in the top ten percent.

That’s what law school is like.  Once you’ve completed those three years of hard work, the $3000 bar review course begins the day after graduation.  For the next 13 weeks, you eat, sleep, and breathe the law.  You go to bar review for three hours each morning.  You study, you read, you take practice exams in the afternoon.  You take more practice exams.  You again work like a dog, and you live in constant fear that you will fail.  In Texas, you know that the bar exam is one of the top three most difficult in the entire country.  The test lasts two and a half days.  You write short answers for an hour and a half about procedure. You answer 200 multiple choice questions.  You answer twelve essay questions.  When you’ve completed this endurance test, you wait anxiously again–for four months–for results.

Doesn’t that sound easy?

The second part of that statement claims: “It is…too profitable to become a lawyer in this country.”  Remember—the top ten percent are the only ones getting gigantic paychecks, and even those jobs are disappearing in this economy.  To get that fat paycheck, you work 80 hours a week and you don’t have a life.  If you aren’t in the top ten percent, then you are fortunate to get a job and you’re certainly not making the big bucks.  I have two part-time jobs right now, and I’m getting paid for both of them, and I’m the lucky one.  Still, I drive a 12-year-old car.  I owe more than $100,000 in student loans.

Easy and profitable?  Definitely not easy, and profitable is questionable.  Becoming a lawyer in this country requires discipline, patience and determination.  Sure, there are sleazy lawyers.  But if and when lawyers get that big payout, most of us deserve it.  I know I do.

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And that’s the way it is

Some NPR news program was interviewing a Canadian stand-up comic about his recently being offered a job at a brand-new conservative news network being created in our neighbor to the north.   Officially it will be Sun TV News, but people are informally referring to it as “Fox News North.”

I was struck not so much by the comic’s obvious sense of “us” and “them” (and his surprise at being invited to work with “them”) as I was about his apparent wonder at who in the world (or at least in Canada) will be consumers of that kind of network.  It got me thinking about the varying perspectives of different news outlets, and I imagined how those networks might report on current events in, say, Afghanistan:

“Next on CNN: two more U.S. troops were killed today in Afghanistan, bringing this month’s total to 14.  Anderson Cooper will take you live to the homes of the families, with some extreme closeups of women crying, and Anderson will debut his new theme music.”

“Later on Fox News: Bill O’Reilly interviews three different heads of state about the political situation in Afghanistan, and tells them why he is right and they are all idiots.”

“Next up on MSNBC: a small earthen dam breaks in Helmand Province, killing two farmers.  We’ll tell you why it’s all Dick Cheney’s fault.”

“Next on Al Jazeera: courageous American journalist Helen Thomas, speaking for President Obama, admits that the slaughter of innocent young Muslim men in Afghanistan is all the fault of Jewish U.S. troops.”

“Tomorrow on NPR’s ‘All Things Considered’: we learn about a young man from Kandahar and the daily challenges he faces as a gay poet in this conservative society.”

Yikes.  I wonder what the new Canadian news network would report:   “Next on Sun TV News:  Prime Minister Steven Harper appeared, along with two other heads of state, on the Fox News show ‘The O’Reilly Factor.’  The PM explained to his host that although the new Canadian network is informally called ‘Fox News North,’ we’ll have difficulty publicly comparing our programmes to O’Reilly’s because in Canada you still can’t say the word ‘ass’ on the air.”

And that’s the way it is  -  or at least the way it seems sometimes.  But at least the U.S. television news networks have the good sense to hire supermodels instead of comedians.

Feel the burn.

Burnout. You hear that term all the time. Thrown around with the casualty of an old sweater, perhaps used to explain a co-workers sudden resignation or a favorite website shutting down. It needs little  explanation. Gossip seekers ask ‘what happened?’ to which you  reply that single word, that conveys the entire back story. A story we all understand and can fully appreciate. You say “Burnout”. Heads nod and you hear ‘oh yeah of course’ from the peanut gallery. No more details requested.

I am personally fascinated by those who burnout. I work hard at what I do, and while I have most certainly have felt the BURN I have never, not once wanted totally OUT. I wonder then if those among us who quit their jobs at the law firm, shut down their websites or even take off for the Bahama’s without telling a soul are really just walking away from something their heart wasn’t into in the first place. Perhaps they got into it, thinking they could handle what was required to make it a success only to decide that they were not passionate enough to make it happen. When you have no passion for what you are doing, then each effort, chore and element becomes another trying expense of energy. Like climbing a never-ending staircase; it is hard and it will wear you out unless you simple love the climb itself.

Secretly, when I hear of others who ‘burnout’, I smile. I do not waste one moment of sympathy on their mental explosion and exhaustion. I am happy they can now go find the thing that they love enough to never even consider giving up. They are free now to find the job or hobby that they can fully connect to on a level that transcends the concept of ‘burning out’. They will find their passion and love that will burn so bright, that it can not be extinguished. Not by endless hours of effort or discouraging results. They will press on just for the love of PRESSING ON. Sometimes buring out is less about giving up, than it is about GIVING IN. Just finally coming to terms with the fact that you are not enjoying the climb.  Of course competitively I also smile when I hear of a case of burnout, because it helps to reinforce my own personal resolve to continue on. To continue taking step after step up that never-ending staircase. Never once thinking I will reach the top ….but still knowing that with every step I have continued my path and have continued to push forward. For me it is not about reaching the summit, but it is about knowing I am one step higher each and everyday I move forward. Forward towards goals that are fantastical and ridiculous to some, and equally impossible and improbable to others.

But I am okay with those odds. Because I am just as happy climbing those exhaustive stairs as I am reaching the top.

Maybe even more.

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