It isn’t easy to do
. The resulting introspection can leave one emotionally drained, a complete shell of one’s previous self. Yet, if we do not do this periodically, how are we to grow? How are we to learn?
Yet, what happens when you take a look and do not like what you see? When you have that moment of clarity where you realize that everything you had supposed was someone else’s fault was really your own? Even worse, what happens when the behavior being analyzed happened at work? When you realize that you were reacting in a manner that is not who you want to be or in a way that you ever thought possible? When you realize that your standing in your boss’ eyes has been permanently damaged by your actions, even if you discover that they were easily explained? Even worse, what if you realize that your astonishing behavior is a direct result of your fractured, mistrusting relationship with your boss?
How do you recover from this? How do you build your self-esteem back up to a point where you are not filled with self-doubt? How do you repair a relationship that was damaged from the very beginning but made worse by your subsequent behaviors since the relationship started? Is support by Human Resources and your boss’ boss enough to help you stand up and brush yourself off from the lengthy fall your ego just took? Is the damage too great to overcome?
All I have figured out to do is to reflect, stay quiet and hyper-vigilant. I brought this on myself with my inability to see how my actions were harming me. I just hope that the support from HR is enough to help me guide through the whitewater into which I steered myself. It is going to be a bumpy ride out of this mess. I just hope I have enough strength left to get through it.















